Welcome to Day 1 of “Choose Love” Boot Camp 2014. I’m so so excited to be sharing this campaign/program with you, and it feels really good to stop everyday and dedicate myself to it. Besides, it has been opening myself to receive love from other sources, even if they are just small syncronicities, I like to believe that they’re coming to me as I open up my heart, welcoming more love into my life, at my own pace.
At my own pace because, to receive love can be painful if we’re not prepared to it. It can bounce back, leaving us with a feeling of “there is something wrong with me” or “I screwed things up. Again”, or it can make us anxious, fearful, and even guilty. The secret (in my opinion), is to practice self-compassion.
Let’s say, for example, that we have a great opportunity in our career, and feel we don’t deserve it. And then we sabotage ourselves in some way or simply say no. To embrace happiness in our lives demands a healthy self-steem, something that many of us actually lack.
That’s why I love this word: “Practice”. Whenever I find a challenge in my life, be it a huge sadness or a huge happiness, I like to see it as a difficult asana. For example, for months, I’m trying to do hanumanasana. I’m progressing, literally, milimeter by milimeter. But I don’t give up and I’m not harsh on myself because I can’t do a full split yet. Although in the beginning I felt a huge deal of frustration. But in the meantime I can learn acceptance, ahimsa, and persistence.
I also love the above quote, by Anita Moorjani. First time I read her book, last october, it was during the week of my birthday, and I couldn’t have chosen a better gift. Anita’s message is so uplifting, true, simple and perfect. She made me conquer a lot of my fear of dying or loosing people I love, and not knowing what expects me in the other side. I would love to see a portuguese edition of this book in the bookstores soon.
I came to know Anita via Jessica Ainscough, and I’m forever grateful for her inspiration. After reading Anita’s book I was in a blissful state, smiling for no reason, just like we do when we’re in love (but still don’t know it). Eventually, this blissful state faded, but I like to read the book again when I need hope.
Everyone of us, human beings, need to live in a loving environment, mentally, physically, spiritually. This atmosphere of love surrounds us like the air. We can be truly ourselves when wholly surrounded by this love environment. Only then can we thrive.
And this begins with self-love.
And grows to unconditional self-love.
Only then we can step in to start the practice of unconditional love for others and everything.
“Compassionate action has to start with ourselves. It is unconditional compassion for ourselves that leads naturally to unconditional compassion for others”. Pema Chödrön
So, let’s accept more happiness in our lives, little by little. And have patience with ourselves when we say no to happiness and love. It’s a practice!